How to Think Your Way to Success and Happiness
Does it sometimes feel like someone is sabotaging your success and happiness? Do you ever suspect that someone sabotaging your success, is you?
How would you like to be able to stop self-sabotaging and, instead, use your mind to think your way to success?
Today, if you’re willing to take an honest look at yourself, in this article you’re going to find what one of your biggest ways you self-sabotage your success and happiness is and what you can do about it. Now, this only works if you’re open minded. So, if you’re open minded, this article is for you.
First, I want to ask, what do you spend your time focusing on?
If you’re like most humans, you spend your time focusing on the negatives.
Why Do We Focus on the Negative?
Why do we humans focus on the negatives? Because that’s the way our brains are wired.
Our brains are constantly scanning for what’s different in our environment. That’s because different can be dangerous. That’s why, at an evolutionary level, we have a need to be aware of different, especially negative different, as soon as possible.
Think about it.
You’re a humanoid on the savannah. There’s a sudden movement in the brush beside you. That movement could be the wind, or it could be a predator. Since negative things can quickly evolve into a bad result, you are programmed to focus on the negative results that could happen. You error on the side of caution and label the movement dangerous. Now your body is ready to do whatever is needed to keep you safe, and part of the gene pool.
Now your body is ready to do whatever is needed to keep you safe, and part of the gene pool.
While most people don’t constantly face these types of dangers anymore, our brains are still wired to notice what’s different and focus on the negative.
While this is a good strategy for staying aware of predators and competing humanoids, except when keeping us safe from danger, negatives just aren’t good motivators.
Rewiring Your Thinking
Even though they are not good motivators, most people focus on the negatives in their lives. They focus on what they don’t want to happen.
For example, a person is doesn’t have enough money. they’re broke, what do they focus on? On what they don’t want, on being broke.
If asked, “What do you want?”, they say, “I don’t want to be broke”.
But this outcome focuses on the negative. And negative outcomes aren’t motivating.
On top of that, there’s another very interesting thing about your brain. It doesn’t hear the word “don’t.”
So, when someone says, “I don’t want to be broke”, their brain hears “I want to be broke.”
Don’t think of a pink elephant. Whatever you do, don’t think of a pink elephant.
What are you thinking about right now?
I’m sure you get the point.
Use Your Brain to Think Your Way to Success and Happiness
To make an outcome motivating, you need to focus on what you want to happen.
How do you do this? By creating a positive well-formed outcome. Here’s how.
Again, ask yourself, what do I want?
You might say I want to be able to buy a home. I want to save money for retirement. I want to be able to better provide for my family.
In this case, an over-reaching outcome might be, “I want to earn an income that will allow me to take care of my family and to pursue my goals and dreams.”
By asking the question, “What do I want?” you have the ability to focus your mind on your desired outcome.
Stay Focused on What You Want
This is how you use your mind to think your way to success. By staying focused on what you want.
Its impossible to do this by focusing on what you don’t want. You can’t engage in a process of “not doing,” or “not wanting.” You can only engage in the process of wanting or doing.
Here’s what you need to remember. No matter the goal, no matter what your outcome is, you will be much more likely to do it by focusing on what you want. You do this by turning your desires into positive well-formed outcomes.
Here’s your assignment for today. Go through your goals and ask yourself “What do I want?” Then, write down in positive terms, exactly what it is. In other words, write out a positive, well-formed outcome for each of your goals.
That’s how you can think your way to success and happiness.
That’s it for today, until, the next time, this is Wil Dieck, wishing you only success!
Wil Dieck is an author, speaker, college professor and researcher. He is also a master hypnotherapist, NLP Trainer and master martial arts instructor. For the past forty years, he has taught people, from a variety of backgrounds, how to create and maintain the habits of success.
Wil is also a professor of psychology and business at San Diego University for Integrated Studies.
Wil runs a leadership and peak performance coaching practice in San Diego, California. He helps his clients create the belief systems of successful people and leaders, allowing them to make the most of their personal and professional lives.
Wil’s books include the highly ranked Amazon Kindle book, “Secrets of the Black Belt Mindset, Turing Simple Habits into Extraordinary Success”. This book is a step-by-step guide of how to create success habits.
He also wrote "Modern Mindfulness, A Beginners Guide on How to Find Peace and Happiness in a Busy World". This book can help anyone learn how to improve their mindfulness and focus.
Most recently, he wrote “Ordinary People, Extraordinary Lives: The Convergence of Mind Body and Spirit”. This book teaches how to snap into a peak performance state. This state gives people more energy and focus to get more done.