Many people are uncomfortable with the prospect of success. This fear can be just as big, or even bigger, a barrier to success than the fear of failure.
You might be thinking, “Who would be afraid of success? Doesn’t everyone want to be successful?” Failure might not be ideal, but if you’re comfortable where you are, the possibility of something more or different can bring a lot fear with it.
Eliminating your fear of success could be all you need to do to take your life to the next level.
If you think you might have a fear of success, then check out the following:
1. How does the fear of success manifest itself in your life?
Procrastination, self-sabotage, and the inability to concentrate on key tasks are all signs of the fear of success. For example, do you find yourself suddenly feeling lethargic when working a project that could take your career to the next level? Then there’s a good chance that your subconscious is working against you.
• Become aware of any signs of self-sabotage in your work and relationships and make a note of them. In fact, put them in a notebook that you can review at the end of the day. Then, ask yourself the purpose of those behaviors. What you may find is that if you look at your past objectively, you’ve been sabotaging yourself for years.
2. Keep track of your negative self-talk.
Again, to do this you need to be aware. As you go through your day, note down your negative beliefs and self-talk, then dispute them by asking:
• Is this true?
• If the belief was true at one time, is it true now?
• Where did this belief come from?
• What can you say to counter this belief?
• What is this belief costing you in your personal and professional life?
3. Maybe you like the comfort zone.
Life in the comfort zone can seem easier to deal with than the effort it takes to become successful. Also, the higher you rise, the bigger target you become. You could be criticized more. You’ll have more responsibility which means you’ll have more pressure.
• As you succeed you’ll grow. This will make more resources available to you. The more resources, in money, in information, in contracts, you have, the better off you’ll be. Used correctly, money and influence can make life a lot easier.
4. Are you afraid success will change you?
While success requires growth, it doesn’t mean you have to change who you are. You can still be the same person, just operating at a different level. For example, a person who wants to lose weight will have to change their eating and exercise habits, but they still are the same person. Yes, you will change, but into a better, more enhanced version of yourself.
5. Understand your values.
Success is what you define it to be, not what the world defines it to be. Make a list of your values (for more information about this check out my book, Secrets of the Black Belt Mindset, available on Amazon). Once you know your values, you can design success around what’s really important to you.
For example, are you afraid that taking your life to the next level will result in a loss of time with your family? Use your values to build a vision of success that allows you to hang out with the kids for a couple of hours, two or three times a week.
You won’t work for an unappealing vision of success. Knowing your values will give you a compelling future.
6. Figure out your why.
You need to understand why you want to succeed. Make a personal list of reasons that excite you. This has a lot to do with your values, but is more than that. Consider all the advantages that success can bring: influence, money, social status, comfort, contribution, and so on.
Look for more information in my upcoming book, Convergence.
7. Enjoy the process.
No matter what anybody says, success can be, and most of the time is, the result of a lot of hard work. If what you’re doing isn’t appealing to you, then the carrot at the end of the stick won’t be attractive enough to motivate you. Find ways to make what you’re doing enjoyable. Maybe it’s the fact that you’re learning something new every day. Maybe it’s the people you meet along the path. Find ways to frame what you’re doing as enjoyable and fun and you’ll be pulled along the path to success.
Stop Letting the Fear of Success Hold You Back!
While counterintuitive, the fear of success is one of the primary reasons more people aren’t’ successful. Don’t underestimate of how it’s affects can sabotage your future. Use the tips you found here to uncover the reasons that motivate you to be successful. Stop self-sabotaging yourself. Enjoy the process and experience the success you deserve.
About the author:
Wil Dieck is a writer, speaker, researcher, college professor and master martial arts instructor. He studies and teaches people from all walks of life how to use simple psychological techniques to develop high performance habits.
Wil’s most recent works includes the highly ranked Amazon Kindle book, Secrets of the Black Belt Mindset, Turing Simple Habits into Extraordinary Success and Modern Mindfulness, A Beginners Guide on How to Find Peace and Happiness in a Busy World.
In addition to his work as a researcher, writer, and speaker, Wil is a professor of psychology and business at San Diego University of Integrated Studies.
Wil runs a peak performance coaching practice in San Diego, California. Additionally, he regularly works with people who are suffering from stress and anxiety using meditation, hypnotherapy and NLP.